A must see Marriage movie

I can’t wait for this movie to be released.  I think all couples and those who are thinking about marriage should see this!!!

http://www.fireproofthemovie.com

Please post your comments after seeing the movie.

God Bless,

Lon & Becky

Are you looking for help?

Are you looking for help in your marriage? Sit down with your spouse and discuss some problem areas in your marriage. Ask your spouse “what can I do to help you” in that area. Work on one item at a time; do not try to fix everything at once. If you focus on one problem area and ask God to help you through this struggle, you will be amazed how things will change in your life.

How do I talk with my spouse about problems in our marriage? First thing to do is open your heart to God and ask for guidance and wisdom. Pray about the problem and convict yourself before discussing issues in your marriage. Turn the TV off and have a heart to heart conversation. Be willing to talk openly and do not raise your voice. Keep a soft mellow tone and allow the other party to talk and comment.

Ask God to take control of your marriage and help you and your spouse make changes in your marriage. Ask God to fill you with the Holy Spirit, give you the right words to say and be with you during your discussion.

Matthew 7:7-8 7“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, I ask that you place your hand on hurting marriages. I ask that you comfort those hurting and give them strength to overcome issues and struggles with one another in marriage. In Jesus name I pray, Amen

In Christ,

Lon & Becky

Manners

Do we still use manners after we are married toward our spouse? Married couples must remember to be polite and use our manners towards one another. We use them when we are out in public and around others so why not thank each other when we are alone.

Giving thanks is not that hard to do. It is easier than you think if you practice it a few times. I am not going to give examples of when to give thanks. I would suggest that you do it at times that would not be expected.

Talk nice and polite to your spouse and see the change in how you get along. When couples speak nice to one another, others will notice. Happy marriages use manners towards one another and everybody wants to be happy.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NIV)

Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Lord, I ask that you soften the hearts of people and give them the strength to use manners, be polite and kind towards one another. Amen

Watch the advice we give

My loving wife and I were recently involved in a discussion with another lady and her friend about leaving her husband.

Lady-D is the lady that would like to leave her husband; she goes to church on a regular basis and has been married 20 years.

Lady-E is a lady that does not attend church, has been married about 38 years and is encouraging Lady-D to divorce

Lady-D is not happy in her marriage and most of the unhappiness has to do with the will and money. There is bickering that goes on back and forth in the marriage. This couple is retired and the income from retirement seems like it is enough for the both of them. One problem I see is that everything they have is in separate accounts from money to the pop they drink. The couple argues over everything and is worried about each other’s money.

Lady-E told Lady-D to leave her husband. Lady-D said she would not put up with his actions and would get a lawyer to get her half of the money before he dies and leave the money to his kids. Lady-D says if she divorces him that she would get half of his money now.

Our conclusion from a Christian view. First of all in Matthew, Jesus tells us not to divorce unless marital unfaithfulness happens in the marriage. This does not mean that we should divorce, if the person that had the affair ask for forgiveness than the hurt party should forgive if at all possible. If they don’t forgive than their heart has become hardened. I am not saying that if you have been cheated on that you should stay married, but I would suggest that you try everything you can to save the marriage. Ask God for help and you and your spouse seek help to solve this serious matter. Ask God to soften your heart and help you cope with the pain. Christians watch what kind of advice you give out.

I don’t understand why people divorce over money. Do you really think God will bless you with the money if that is the reason of your divorce? If you cannot get along with each other than seek help. Let’s work on our marriage instead if giving up.

Bible Verse: Please read Matthew 19

Today’s Prayer: Dear Lord, I ask for you to help and comfort hurting marriages. May you give them strength to sit down together, talk to one another and work out their issues. Give them the strength to seek help. Amen

In Christ,

Lon & Becky

Divorce

Are you thinking about divorce? Please think about this very carefully.

Divorce does not just affect you and your spouse, it affects the whole family. What greater gift could you give each other than to work out your problems. You have invested in this marriage and you should try to save your investment.

Stop searching the internet for information on divorce, search the internet on saving my marriage, help my marriage, improve my marriage, stop divorce in marriage, fix my marriage and search for CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE WEBSITES.

I really like http://www.familylife.com for good information dealing with marriage, singles and children. I would recommend on their site checking out the “Weekend To Remember”. My wife and I went to this marriage building weekend retreat and we have a great time. We had fun, we laughed, we cried and we brought love back into our marriage. The Family Life “Weekend To Remember” travels all over the United States, check out their site to see when they will be near you.

Who wins in a divorce? Lawyers win in a divorce. I know several lawyers personally and they are good people. If we don’t run to them for a divorce all the time, maybe this would allow them more time to focus on major problems in our communities. If you went to a lawyer and said I would like a divorce, and if the lawyer said to you “come back in 60 days and we will talk” you would be mad and look for another lawyer. If people would just pause and not go to the lawyers while being mad, maybe the divorce rate would decrease.

I would suggest reading from the bible the following on divorce:

Matthew

Mark

Luke

1 Corinthians

Today’s Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, I ask that you guide couples and give them the strength to want to save their marriage. I ask that you change the hearts of people wanting to divorce and bless those who listen to your word on divorce. Amen

In Christ,

Lon & Becky

Is the grass greener?

Is the grass greener on the other side?

How many times have couples thought about leaving the marriage?

If the grass is greener it will only be greener for one season!

God has designed for you and your spouse to be joined together. We as humans always think we know whats best. Then all of a sudden we mess everything up. Let God work through each of us and allow Him to strengthen us. Ask God to bless your marriage, your spouse and you. Admit your sins and ask God for forgiveness.

When couples are unhappy in marriage they think divorce is the answer. They think the grass is greener on the other side. It is not always the other person that has the problems it is YOU. Take a look at yourself, are you doing right, are you honoring your spouse? I am sure we can all think about it and see the flaws we each have to work on.

Divorce is not the answer, getting your marriage on track is the answer! God says he hates divorce! Please Read:

Malachi 2:16 (NIV) “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.

What we need to be doing is asking ourself and our spouse, “what can I do to make this marriage better”? It is possible to take a bad marriage and make it a positive, happy, loving marriage. Marriage is not rocket science, we just need to really love one another. Before you can love someone else you must love yourself.

1 Corinthians 7:27 (NIV) Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Lord, I ask that you place your arms around married couples today and give them the strength to fix and restore troubled marriages. Touch their hearts and bring them together as one. AMen

In Christ,

Lon & Becky

Our son got married

Hello Everyone,

• Our 22 year old son got married
• Trying to start a business
• Selling our house
• Looking for a new location to live and run a business at the same location
• Wife’s Grandmother in and out of the hospital

Our one and only child (Son) got married to a wonderful young lady on June 7th.  The pastor gave a very nice eye opening speech.  I felt it was on target with marriage today and what marriage should be about.

Our pastor read 1 Corinthians 13 (LOVE)

I would encourage every married person and those soon to marry to read this beautiful passage.  Try to use this passage in your marriage and see if you don’t become closer to your spouse.  I know it is not easy but it is worth a try.  I have read this passage before but when our pastor read it out loud I teared up.  Why did I tear up?  Love keeps no record of wrongs!  Wow, that is not an easy task and I ask for strength at times to deal with this.

How does God work in one’s life?  Our son lost his job about a month before the wedding.  The plant he worked at closed up.  He was out of work about two weeks and he got hired at one of top plants in our town.  He is now full time and doing well.  God placed him in places at the right time.  Some people say it is luck or just good timing, I don’t think so.  With all the people out of a job in this town and business closing daily, he was selected out of hundreds of other applicants.  I think that is more than luck!

1 Corinthians 13 (NIV)

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Lord, I ask and pray for all young couples that are planning to marry or that just got married.  I pray that they are strengthened and that they are blessed by your grace and love.  May they display the love of Christ towards each other?  Amen

In Christ,

Lon & Becky

A Rocky Marriage

A Rocky Marriage

In marriage today it is too easy to walk out. When things get rocky people want to run. This is not the answer.

The answer is to grow up. Sit down together, talk about the problems and how the two of you can fix the problems you are facing. It may be beyond the two of you, I would suggest talking with someone from a church or a biblical counselor. “I would stay away from the standard marriage counselors, family and friends”.

If your marriage is on the rocks it is time to get serious and sweep the rocks up. Talk with your spouse and find out what they need from you to help this marriage out. It takes two to make a marriage work and both parties are to blame when it fails.

One question to ask each other:

1. What do you need from me right now?

Be honest about the answer you give and make sure it is important for yourself and the marriage. If you just throw an answer out there you will get nowhere. Pick a top 3 most important problems you want fixed in the marriage and work on them.

Pray together as a couple, pick the best time that works for the both of you. For my wife and I it is at bedtime. Couples that pray together, stay together.

1 Corinthians 7 (NIV)

The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, I ask that you give couples the strength to come before you and ask for help in marriage. Give them the ability to talk to one another and talk from the heart. I pray for your hand in their time of need to comfort them and direct them. Amen

In Christ,

Lon & Becky

Memorial Day (May 26, 2008)

Hello, I served in the military from 1985 to 1995. I would like to dedicate this post to our military serving around the world and defending our families. I was stationed in Norfolk, VA and served aboard 3 ships, I also did a 3 year tour in Iceland.

I would like for everyone who reads this post to take a moment to pause and say a prayer for our military. We need to remember those who have given the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom. Those who have fallen to protect us, those who have served and those who are serving. The men and women serve to give us the right to be free, to serve and worship God our way. They serve to protect us and defend the United States of America. If you know someone in the military or see a military person give them a Thank You and make their day.

We need to also pray for the families of our service members. I will tell you that sometimes the stress on the family of a serving military person is greater than you can imagine. The spouse of a military member has a tough job taking care of the home front. Please remember them as well when you pause to pray.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Lord, I ask that you comfort those serving in the United States Armed Forces and protect them. Give them strength to defend the United States, keep the safe and healthy. I pray for the military families that you give them peace in their heart, comfort them and keep them safe. Amen

Thank you to all our military personnel and may God be with you and your families!

God Bless,

Lon & Becky

How to argue with your spouse

I know that things are not always perfect and that Christians still argue. Let me say as Christians you should argue differently. The key is to not let the argument snowball and get bigger and bigger. Watch your tongue and speak out of love and not anger.

Key Points:

If you are arguing about something while you are in the kitchen, keep it in the kitchen. Solve the issue fast and start being that loving couple again right away.

If you are arguing about one particular thing than keep it to that. Do not bring up other issues or past issues. This argument is now, so work on the now and not the past. The past will not ever be behind you if you keep bringing it up.

Tell your spouse during the argument that you want to focus on solving the problem and that you love them very much. Let them know how you feel when you argue. If you stop what you are doing and focus on the needs at the time, you will be amazed how two people can solve problems before it blows into a major argument.

Psalm 52:2 Your tongue plots destruction; it is like a sharpened razor, you who practice deceit.

James 3:8 but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, I ask that you place your hand on people today when they argue. Give them the strength to stop and discuss the issue in a calm, loving, caring way. I ask that you give couples the strength to come before you and ask for your help to solve their problems. I pray for couples today to show respect towards one another and grow in Christ.

In Christ,

Lon & Becky